Written A Day Before Her Death, Holly Butcher’s Letter Is Changing Lives.

Written A Day Before Her Death, Holly Butcher’s Letter Is Changing Lives.
    Written A Day Before Her Death, Holly Butcher’s Letter Is Changing Lives.

    Are you happy with your life at the moment? We all go through periods of dissatisfaction and apathy, feeling like something just isn’t quite right or struggling with a sense that something is missing. However, we can all too easily take our health and freedom for granted, sometimes missing the bigger picture. The truth is that we can all stand to learn a lot by considering the unique perspective of a person who has not much time left. This is especially moving when someone, like Holly Butcher, is so willing to share wisdom with the world.

    We’ll explore the story of Holly, a young woman whose life was tragically cut short by terminal illness. She left a letter full of advice and honesty, containing at least eight distinct messages that we can all benefit from. And as we work through them, we’ll consider how you might best apply these lessons to your own life. Plus, let’s acknowledge some of the challenges that often stand in our way.

    The Story Of Holly Butcher

    Written A Day Before Her Death, Holly Butcher’s Letter Is Changing Lives.

     Born in New South Wales in Australia, Holly Butcher looked to have a wonderful life ahead of her. However, aged just 27 years old, Holly lost her life to a rare type of bone cancer, Ewing’s sarcoma. This type of cancer is especially prevalent in younger people. Until her diagnosis, Holly was extremely fit and had a passion for fitness and health. She represented her state in two separate sports, squash and hockey. It was a profound shock to discover that undiagnosed malignancy had been growing without her knowledge.

    She first began to suspect something was wrong when she noticed a persistent knee pain that increased any time she exercised or drank. As time went on, the pain grew, and she went to her doctor for advice. After pressing for exploratory tests, she discovered that her cancer was at stage 4; impossible to cure, and likely to kill her within years. Before she died, Holly talked about how odd it was to come to terms with the idea of her life ending at such a young age. She shared her fantasies of growing old, and how she’d imagined being surrounded by children and grandchildren, simply assuming (as so many of us do) that this would be possible for her to achieve.

    Holly Butcher’s Letter

    Written A Day Before Her Death, Holly Butcher’s Letter Is Changing Lives.

    A bit of life advice from Hol:

    It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful family (lots of kiddies) I planned on building with the love of my life. I want that so bad it hurts.
    That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.
    I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy.. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.
    I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared - I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability.. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us.. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.
    I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most!
    Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days.
    Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that - breathe.
    You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.
    Let all that shit go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.
    I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise - Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things ... until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.
    I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.
    Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body.. work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is.. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not.. Be ruthless for your own well-being.
    Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.
    Whinge less, people! .. And help each other more.
    Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people.
    It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.
    Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.
    Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.
    This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves.. strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our house because we had no little kiddies there. Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on.
    Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.
    Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water.
    Get amongst nature.
    Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.
    Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females 🤔.
    Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises.
    Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.
    Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.
    Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?
    Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.
    Work to live, don’t live to work.
    Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.
    Eat the cake. Zero guilt.
    Say no to things you really don’t want to do.
    Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.
    Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.
    Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it - in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.
    Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind!
    Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple.
    Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year - a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.
    ..’Til we meet again.
    Hol
    Xoxo

    Written A Day Before Her Death, Holly Butcher’s Letter Is Changing Lives.

    Holly’s powerful letter has been shared on Facebook almost 250,000 times and has been covered in a wide range of national newspapers. As well as wanting to ensure others learned from her experience, she wanted to use the letter to instigate a more open conversation about death and dying. She felt that these were unhelpfully taboo subjects; since we all have to face our mortality, we can all benefit from tackling the topic of death with honesty and humility. In her letter, she also deliberately stressed the importance of blood donations, without which she would not have been able to live for a full further year. A single donation can save up to three lives. The concrete impact blood donors had on Holly reminds us that donating blood is something that most of us can easily do in order to help others. She prepared her letter in the final weeks of her life. It was ultimately released by her family on the day she passed away.

    Holly Butcher’s Facebook Acc Here .

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